Good Parenting

Parenting is an exhilarating experience as some historian says that we learn to really worry about some body more than us when we have our own children.Everyone has got a childhood of their own.Some people had it fabulous where others had average ones.But it's certainly those children who have suffered most due to disturbed environment.Still if some how they managed to be taken care of by any of the parents or even elderly,they escaped unhurt.All those little experiences that we remember through adulthood have engraved certain features in us.Some children who have been bullied by others in their childhood grow as violent natured while those remain discriminated become silent throughout their rise and fall.It is the utmost responsibility of parents to see if there's anything wrong happening with their children.

Some children bear certain responsibility of their home,so they grow up being more matured and accountable in some respect while some other simply never grow or mature in their mind.Most parents think they know better for their children as to which colour or what they wear,what should be their career options,which subjects they should choose etc.I am sure that no one thinks of a child better than their own parents.But at the same time,it's equally important to talk to them,to know what they would like to pursue or simply their areas of interest.We are never too old to learn something new and yes,we may have new ideas too about their choices or we may grow our interest into their in stead of resisting them.

I remember one of my friend,she wanted to go to journalism,she wanted to pursue MA English and then to become a journalist.But her father pushed her to study science but as she couldn't like mathematics,she had to choose between other sciences like Biology.I am not saying that it was a wrong subject but everyone is uniquely designed for his/her choice of studies.As parents,our job is to secure their future,not to oppose them.There was another friend who loved classical dance and she wanted to learn it.However her mother convinced her that singing is better and they sent her to some music school.She never prove herself as a good singer and soon she dropped out from there.

Parenthood teaches us how to become careful,patient and unconditional with our children.It also teaches us to learn before teaching them.As children tend to copy their parents,it is essential for the parents to avoid being a wrong role model.In India,our traffic rule is minimum of 18 years to get a license but I have observed a countless number of children below that age driving two as well as four wheelers.It is risky because they don't even follow safety measures.But it's not their mistake as it's the mistake of their parents who broke law in the name of love towards their children.

My view is love your children,unconditionally,the most ideal way it can be,without pressurizing them to follow what they are not interested.Let them grow on their own while like a good gardener keep an watch on them continuously.Never let them feel low,never compromise with their wrong doing.They have come through you,so protect them.But don't nail them down if they cannot do exactly what you expected.There are a lot of ways of learning.You can learn from your own parents too,from their way of handling,correct those that went wrong through a better method of yours,apply reasons wherever applicable.But the net result would be absolutely in your hand.Because it's always the process that matters.If the process is right,the product cannot go wrong.