The fact that women are the root cause of all civilization,be it good or evil is accepted.After many decades of veil or suppression,lack of education and proper facilities,a few hundred thousand came out through their own efforts while more than those are still lying in the rut.It's not because that they can't but it is more due to the other part of society that is men,who never wanted the fairer sex to come out and manage themselves,I mean,without them.In a country that had such a diplomatic woman prime minister,such an wastage of women force is truly disgusting.I have often met women from different strata who are bearing the forbearance due to their male chauvinistic "owners".According to me,being powerful means helping and guiding those people who are lagging behind but our patriarchs have always taken the opportunities to sway their women with other activities like kitchen,bedroom and making babies.Though that's the primary part yet there are lot of women who have actually turned out much more than just managing these trivial issues.That what our grand mothers and mothers have been through,should not be a trend for us or our next generation.
Today I find a lot of modern educated men who not only participate in household job but balance themselves suitably.In fact,a study conducted by some international organization has shown that men of western countries are much more involved in their family that includes household tasks than our Indian counterpart.Indian men were at the lowest in this regard among other countries.Why it is so?Why they are so demotivated when it comes to giving a hand to their women?It's neither lack of strength nor will power to do so,but deliberate dodging away of responsibilities due to a thinking that they are superior to their women.They are husbands,masters of those creature called wives and it's only their job.On the contrary,a house where both had an equal income or professional ability,the status of the house and children are humorously different.I heard a 3 year old talking to her apparently 15 year old looking maid in a tone similar to her mother.
Women who have not given chance to education or married off early are strategically in more backward condition than those who had an access to education.An old tradition that if educated,women won't accept the impositions and restrictive norms sought by men,has been applied and those in poorly connected areas bear the brunt.I must ask those men about who taught them the theory of superiority when some of them don't even know or follow the basic guidelines of a happy life.Who gave them the idea of happiness in terms of materialistic gain?Or even better,who advised them to remain as an immature "baby" while acting as masters to their women?But as it's said that when we educate a woman,we educate a generation won't go wrong if we look into those house where rural women who had gone to school sometimes in their early life have given voice to their own girl child for being educated.It's an accepted norm in our society which is largely dependent upon primitive thoughts that a woman can be wrong but a man can never be.In fact,I have a casual reward for those chauvinistic writers on my behalf.Our leaders openly describe incidences like crime and violence against women are "small issues".Misogyny is not bought over,it's a carefully implemented and manifested action that is even accepted as heroism.It's not untrue that women are vulnerable,so also are children.While a larger part of girl children aged a few months to women even aged 90,are reported to be victim of sexual violence where the offender is a man of any age,between 17 and 77,have we ever heard of any incidence that involves a 77 year old woman molested or raped a boy or a man?Indian cinema has represented it's women sexuality in such a way that even aged people seem to enjoy those scenes in privacy.It's a shame.Nudity is not and cannot be the way of liberalism and it's the naked truth,whether we accept it or not.
Ours is a hopeless society because we are not deaf by our ears but we are deaf in our heart,mute in our mind and having lazy mouth.It's not always about raging war against men,it's about working together to free our society from such menace.Most men think women should not raise voices against those horrifying matters as they need to take care of themselves under a safe roof.True,but what about the altruism?Again,how many women are there who don't even have to go out to buy milk or vegetable for their daily needs or even attend their kids' school meetings.Yes,I have seen such women who still cover their faces with their sari and never go to market places without their husbands.Then,they have male children who don't even regard their mothers with some importance.This total system of forgery are due to our incapability.I am not saying that it's only a manly responsibility to give their women a proper place,it's also women's responsibility to seek their place.Our grand mothers and mothers taught us about patience but it's also true that if we would love to pamper ourselves with injustice and cater ourselves as mere entertainers,there's absolutely no one who can help them.Sometimes,I even asked those women about why they are still in darkness but their answers were so poor and unjustified that I don't even bother to discuss it.But what I perceived is that they feel like they are in a cool nest and they are not going to be put under any difficulty if they continue what they are doing.They may be true as it has been their religion,though I found that disaster may strike on them on any day and they won't find a way out of their misery if,god forbids.
There are now many village panchayat heads who are women.Surely it's their ability to compete in that ruffians' world that made them hero.In Uttarakhand,there are many villages whose total survival depends on their women.They not only take care of their daily duties,they even do farming including plowing and harvest.There are certain villages which are bordering jungles where women are attacked by wild animals like bear and leopard and even men who know that they are alone.Most of these women keep an weapon for self defense as they know danger can strike anywhere at anytime.Most of the men of such houses have gone to Indian Army as they don't have alternate career choices.Some of them have even died during India Pakistan cross-firings.But their women have not lost their morale and instead doing their best to cover up all manly jobs as added responsibilities.I always salute those women soldiers who despite being deprived of basic education,are doing tremendous jobs just to call it fulfilling their duties.Sometimes,they are being lured by evil men for neon lights and fanciful life in big cities where they end up living in dead bodies.Women living near urban units have choices in education or career but that of mountain villages,as in Uttarakhand,Himachal Pradesh and even Jammu & Kashmir,don't.They are just paying the price of being born in such rugged terrains.Still,whenever I met them,I have always found a self-contentment in them.I have never found so happy faces in such dire environment.It's like god has made them so tough and enthusiastic for meeting such a life.
All these challenges that women face are global issues now as we hear about their plight from warring countries or those facing economic crisis.Political powers of all those countries are not in favor of removing crisis from their people's lives,as some one justly said,we don't need power to do good to others.Still there were great leaders who not only faced difficult situations but also maintained a balance in the lives of their citizens narrowing down their priorities.While those countrymen gave immense respect and a general sense of security in their hands,those leaders earned reputation in international history due to their utter statesmanship.A logical explanation to all such queries lie in the effectiveness of its inclusion in the minds of general people.It's not the question of he or she.A normal civilized society of a developed world are much more reasonable as they believe in over all progressive thoughts.A country progresses faster where its women progress.That's the clue.
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